Confession time! For the past five-and one-half years, I had been so enamored with gaining insights from the experiences on my spiritual journey, and sharing them with others through this blogsite, that I made an understandable mistake. As soon as an insight bubbled up into my conscious awareness, I couldn't wait to plumb the depths of my being for clarity so that I could write about it in a way that others could understand and, if desired, learn from it.
What I realize now is that just because I took in new insights and could articulate them this didn't mean that I had fully made the information part of my life. I wasn't always acting upon the new information and therefore there really wasn't a complete "knowing."
For example, I learned a lot about my bodily needs as far as nutrition, exercise and how to balance being and doing, work and play. But did I act accordingly? Well, maybe 50-60 percent of the time, but my long-time habits and/or long-held inner beliefs (subconscious directives) kept me from fully committing to treating my body as the life-giving vehicle it actually is.
Then, my accident in 2011 that resulted in a broken foot -- and a lot of help from friends and relaties -- brought me face to face with the fact that I had been a life-long giver and was unaware of a need to balance giving and receiving in my life. Now that I know better, am I doing better? I can honestly say that I'm doing better than ever before, but that's not saying much as the before was not that impressive.
Similarly, when a painful case of shingles and post herpetic neuralgia (PHN) showed up in my life almost a year ago, I realized quickly that pain can hold very important messages for us. The first insight I gained and wrote about was that pain is a messenger that lets us know something is out of balance in our physical, mental, emotional or spiritual aspects. We then have the opportunity to balance body, mind and Spirit, which manifests as health.
That turnd out to be the first time in my life that I didn't heal quickly and completely from any illness. I have had to learn how to cope with residual pain, and go on with my life. I was visibly disappointed at first, until a wise friend reminded me that in every life challenge there are a number of insights and blessings to be discovered. This brought me back to center and knowing that we're here to learn how life on Earth is really meant to work and to grow in conscious awareness.
Fortunately I am committed to "growing" through life instead of just "going" through it. So, I did what I always do, I sat quietly, went within and asked myself: What am I to learn from this experience? I recalled almost immediately from my college psychology class that by the time we are six-years old we have accepted into our subconscious judgmental messages from others that become so entrenched they are like a tape recorder constantly playing back negative directives that have controlled our lives. I have been working on this for some time.
And, I also recognized that there was a high possibility of something in my subconscious or conscious mind that continues to block my desire to heal and move beyond the still painful PHN condition.
I have known for a long time that it is necessary for us to identify and change the automatic directives that have been playing and re-playing every day of our lives and without our ever realizing it. The first step, of course, is learning how to discover what is on our subconscious tape recorder. But before I share a technique for that, here are some words of wisdom from bestselling author Eckhart Tolle that may aid you in your process, as they did me.
In the April issue of the Science of Mind magazine, he stated that when a serious disease or illness, event or situation pops up for us, it is meant to push us to pull up our resolve and seek to consciously evolve through it. He also recognized that in the midst of such a situation it may be impossible to stop and embrace it as a positive happening. How True!
His recommendation at that point is to ask ourselves this question: "If I understood that whatever experience I am having now is the most helpful for the evolution of my consciousness, how would I act?" He added that by answering that question, it can bring us to a point of acceptance of "what is," which is a requirement for moving beyond a given situation. This helped me tremendously.
Now here is a practical and simple technique you may use to discover what the directive is on the tape-recorder of your conscious or subconscious mind. It has worked for me and many others, and I believe it will for you.
Write out your statement like this: I could have, be, do ________________, if I_________________________. Fill in the desire you seek -- and then wait for the higher wisdom, infinite intelligence that is within each of us to provide your answer. Sometimes it takes a number of tries before the true answer comes up. I've learned that by repeating this method over and over, I finally resonate at a gut level with the Truth for me.
When we know what is blocking our good, then we can draft a laser-focused antidote to neutralize the negative message and feed in a new positive message to help achieve the desired result. In this way, we are following the "knowing," by "acting upon it."
The response to my query: My body could heal the imbalance (PHN) right now, if I ___________, (resulted in this answer),
"fully believed that my conscious affirmations are stronger than any invalid and negative thoughts I hold in my conscious or subconscious mind."
I realize now the answer for me is to remain open to the lessons in this experience, to follow my inner guidance and to choose my conscious thoughts wisely and to monitor them closely. They are more powerful than the invalid, subconscious thoughts we may hold -- and when acted upon -- our desire or something better manifests in our lives.
While there is much I do not know, I trust in the process of life, and accept that whatever experience I am having is the most helpful for my conscious evolution. Naturally I continue to act on what I know as the truth of me. I repeat daily: I deserve and experience God-Good-Health-Joy and Happiness now. Any messages in my conscious or subconscious mind that opposes this are now erased. Today I gratefully accept all the good life has to offer.
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Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way -- How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Sunday, July 1, 2012
Friday, June 1, 2012
Riding the Rapids of Change -- Your Own and the World's
Unless we’ve been hiding our heads in the sand, which seems to be an international failing, we know that incredible ecological, cultural, spiritual and technological changes are happening worldwide, and at a head-spinning pace. While scientists are predicting, visionaries are hoping and praying that this global activity will lead to wondrous leaps in the way mankind progresses and treats our planet and each other.
This dream will never come to pass, though, unless many millions of us courageously look up, recognize the situation, and choose to play our individual roles in the evolving consciousness of humanity.
I know for many senior citizens this personal participation won’t be easy. For myself, I'm a great grandmother, and I, too, am somewhat resistant to change, especially in the high-tech area. My cell phone does not have any apps, take photographs or perform the duties of a household staff. My car cannot self-park, give me directions or make me feel redundant. And, when I have to adjust my comfort zone to cope with normal life changes, I do my share of grousing before I can embrace the changes and move forward.
Yet, if we care about our children, grandchildren and future generations to come, as well as our planet, we will take this opportune time seriously for ourselves and as role models. We elders have a far broader scope of memory and knowledge, and while we may all still have a lot to learn, we’ve been around the block.
Fortunately we have super-computer brains that are ideally designed to help us to, among other things, remain balanced in a world that is constantly changing. This is good news indeed, for we know that life equals change. It seems we were organically wired to evolve to this point where for the first time in human history we are aware of our oneness with the Earth and all life and have the opportunity to help humanity evolve consciously.
That information becomes even more vital when we consider we’re on an orb hurtling through space, and instead of being a wise and loving custodian of our planet home, mankind has bombed, pillaged, polluted, raped and wreaked havoc on land, sea and air. We are at a crisis point with the very ground upon which we stand, literally and figuratively.
All scientific trends indicate that before the end of this century the changes will be coming so fast that they will hardly register on our consciousness, and life on Earth will soon bear little resemblance to what we know now.
I can assure you that even though it may be under the radar (the head in the sand syndrome) the current changes are already affecting each and every one of us emotionally, mentally and physically. We need to pay attention and recognize how change is already showing up in our individual lives, and how to cope with it so that we are part of a desirable outcome.
After some recent physical, mental and emotional upheavals in my life, and a lot of angst, I finally recognized that I was in a process of change. It took me even longer before I realized that the hoped for changes on Earth could only come about through us as we are one with the Earth and all life, and it could not be otherwise. There, in blessed repose is the irrevocable link between global transformational changes and us. It is up to us to wake up and take responsibility for our part in the process.
So, for those who may hopefully find a source of solace and support from the lessons of others, I offer up my experience.
After prior decades of excellent health, ten months ago, my life was altered by a broken foot. Three months later I was diagnosed with shingles, and subsequently post herpetic neuralgia, which is ongoing and means coping with constant pain. As the physical maladies continued to surface, the emotional aspect also heightened.
At first when the changes were primarily physical, my rational mind entertained the thought that since I’m a senior citizen perhaps this was the beginning of the end, and I would just have to get used to it, do my best and accept what is. That line of negative thought passed fairly quickly as my lifelong habit of thinking positively came to the fore. If I’m still here, I reasoned, my time on Earth wasn’t complete – yet – and that like all human beings I am part and parcel of transformational global change.
I got the message that we are meant to grow through our own changes and to reap the reward of evolving consciously, as well as simultaneously in synch with humanity. Holding onto this truth lifted my spirits dramatically and eased my mind, but not the process, as it soon became more complicated.
What ultimately plunged me into a mental and emotional tizzy was when change touched my professional life as a writer. I was in the middle of writing an essay and didn’t realize I was still immersed in my own “change process” – which meant that I didn’t know enough to complete the essay. As a consequence, I missed several deadlines. Since I consider writing a significant part of my life’s purpose, and this was the first time in a lengthy career this had ever happened, I experienced a mixture of anxiety, concern, doubt, and fear.
I continued to endure daily angst until finally in desperation I called my daughter. She knows me better than anyone, and reminded me that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but of loving oneself enough to do so. With her loving support and wisdom, I was then able to call another friend who is a gifted spiritual counselor.
The advice she offered provided the next level of understanding that I needed. I told her I felt like my body, as well as my life was either falling apart or falling together, and from time to time I wasn’t sure which. Her counsel included a reminder that when we are challenged at a deep soul level, it is a blessed opportunity to draw closer to God-the Source-Infinite Intelligence. She also described pain as “a huge experience in humility, where our egos begin to soften and we are laid open and bare to the power and presence of God.” That resonated with the core of my being, and I was brought to tears, and also thankfully back to my center within—where once again I could come from clarity, as well as trust in God-Good-Truth and the process of life.
Right now I hug to my heart that like everyone else on the planet I have the same opportunity to help create a world that works for me and for everyone. I know at the deepest part of me that this time of global change is a golden opportunity (writ large), and if we’re alive, no matter our ages, we’re part of it and meant to help further the process—not hide our heads and pretend things are okay, or give up on ourselves or the world.
The insight I gained, as well as a key to accepting and coping with my personal challenges (and to completing this essay), was in being able to ask for help, which meant bypassing my ego. In doing that, I was able to come from my essential self, which is what I believe we’re all being challenged to do in this time of transformational change. If we can do this individually and collectively, it will mean goodbye to insecurity, fear, unnecessary angst, greed, wars and hurting others in any form. By actively participating in helping humanity evolve—we help create better lives and a better world. Count me in.
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Copyright © 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author’s books: “Tea with Elisabeth,” recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; “You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World,” and “The Heart Knows the Way—How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within,” are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Sunday, April 1, 2012
The Most Important Date on Any Calendar Is the Day You Discover Your Own Power!
The Mayan calendar ends December 21, 2012, a date that some view with fear - much like what occurred just before the end of the millennium - while others look forward to it with jubilation. Predictions of what this event could mean to humanity range from the usual cataclysmic end-of-time to it heralding a major energy shift that will usher in a golden age of love and peace on Earth. My faith, philosophy and way of life have led me to believe the best and leave the rest.
I also recall clearly that despite all the fear and media hyperbole, nothing of major note actually happened when our Gregorian calendar switched over on January 1, 2000. I choose to believe that the current dire prophecies are similarly unwarranted.
However, most of us do recognize that if we want to help change the direction in which our world is headed and to create better lives for every human being on Earth, it is time to make some serious changes. We can see just by looking around us, that we already know how to create what we don't want in the world and in our lives. Now is the perfect time to learn how to create what we do desire.
We need to decide where we are right now, what we want in our future and whether or not we are willing to make the necessary changes in order to be successful.
Part of the self-discovery phase is to identify and be certain that our desires resonate with the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of our being. When we have done this, it is similar to a board of directors that has voted unanimously to follow a course of action. This single-minded focus is not only powerful; it is a prerequisite to achieving our heart desires.
We must also understand how the universe works. We place our "order," and what we receive back is determined by our innermost-subconscious thoughts and feelings we hold around whatever specific issues we are concerned about. If our under-the-radar thoughts and beliefs are negative, we receive negative results.
No matter how much willpower we exert trying to force the results we desire into becoming a reality, we eventually tire and give up because of deep-seated thoughts and beliefs. Without this awareness, we will find ourselves constantly sabotaging our efforts. No matter what we are seeking, whether it is health, wealth, loving relationships, or peace and the end of world hunger, the result will be the same: failure.
The reality is that unless we love ourselves just where we are right now, we will not be successful. We must learn to change negative thoughts about our lives and world conditions and replace them with positive thoughts and feelings. Otherwise, the universe will continue to use information that reflects what we really think and feel at a subconscious level and will keep sending us the same old results.
It is tempting to think that if we come to peace with our lives as they are, instead of what we desire, we will become complacent and get stuck there. This isn't true. There is a divine energy striving to express itself through us, and it is continually spurring us on to be more and fulfill our human potential.
No matter the life circumstances we have chosen to learn lessons, by resolving to make positive changes in order to achieve our desired life, we will know what to do. We will be led to learn the lessons, resolve the challenges we face and come to a peaceful resolution within. Then we will finally be able to stop beating ourselves up over the situation and move forward to create the lives and future we desire.
Once we take control and begin to transform our lives, we see that our actions positively affect others as well as what happens in our future, and collectively in the world. Then we know that the power doesn't lie in some external non-event like the ending of the Mayan calendar -- it lies within us.
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Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author's books, including "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for non-fiction; "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," and "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," are available through Amazon.com as well as major bookstores such as Barnes & Noble and other online sources.
I also recall clearly that despite all the fear and media hyperbole, nothing of major note actually happened when our Gregorian calendar switched over on January 1, 2000. I choose to believe that the current dire prophecies are similarly unwarranted.
However, most of us do recognize that if we want to help change the direction in which our world is headed and to create better lives for every human being on Earth, it is time to make some serious changes. We can see just by looking around us, that we already know how to create what we don't want in the world and in our lives. Now is the perfect time to learn how to create what we do desire.
We need to decide where we are right now, what we want in our future and whether or not we are willing to make the necessary changes in order to be successful.
Part of the self-discovery phase is to identify and be certain that our desires resonate with the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of our being. When we have done this, it is similar to a board of directors that has voted unanimously to follow a course of action. This single-minded focus is not only powerful; it is a prerequisite to achieving our heart desires.
We must also understand how the universe works. We place our "order," and what we receive back is determined by our innermost-subconscious thoughts and feelings we hold around whatever specific issues we are concerned about. If our under-the-radar thoughts and beliefs are negative, we receive negative results.
No matter how much willpower we exert trying to force the results we desire into becoming a reality, we eventually tire and give up because of deep-seated thoughts and beliefs. Without this awareness, we will find ourselves constantly sabotaging our efforts. No matter what we are seeking, whether it is health, wealth, loving relationships, or peace and the end of world hunger, the result will be the same: failure.
The reality is that unless we love ourselves just where we are right now, we will not be successful. We must learn to change negative thoughts about our lives and world conditions and replace them with positive thoughts and feelings. Otherwise, the universe will continue to use information that reflects what we really think and feel at a subconscious level and will keep sending us the same old results.
It is tempting to think that if we come to peace with our lives as they are, instead of what we desire, we will become complacent and get stuck there. This isn't true. There is a divine energy striving to express itself through us, and it is continually spurring us on to be more and fulfill our human potential.
No matter the life circumstances we have chosen to learn lessons, by resolving to make positive changes in order to achieve our desired life, we will know what to do. We will be led to learn the lessons, resolve the challenges we face and come to a peaceful resolution within. Then we will finally be able to stop beating ourselves up over the situation and move forward to create the lives and future we desire.
Once we take control and begin to transform our lives, we see that our actions positively affect others as well as what happens in our future, and collectively in the world. Then we know that the power doesn't lie in some external non-event like the ending of the Mayan calendar -- it lies within us.
_______________________________
Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author's books, including "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for non-fiction; "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," and "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," are available through Amazon.com as well as major bookstores such as Barnes & Noble and other online sources.
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Pain Has More Important Messages for Us Than "Ouch!"
Pain has been on my mind a lot lately because I have recently experienced more of it than at any other point in my life. Just before my broken foot was to be deemed officially healed, and I would get the go-ahead to resume my normal life, I was diagnosed with shingles. I knew nothing about this condition -- except that it hurt, a lot.
Shingles is a viral infection stored in the spine after a person has chicken pox. It affects the nerves and can develop into a serious condition called post herpetic neuralgia (PHN). This complication causes burning, itching and nerve pain, and it can continue for months or years.
I am one of the 1 in 10 shingles patients who develop PHN. Ouch! Many of you know I've chosen to grow through life instead of just going through it, so you won't be surprised that I have already asked the question: What am I to learn from this situation? I know, the more usual response is to just want the pain to stop, no matter what we have to do to accomplish it, and I can relate to that, especially in the middle of sleepless nights.
However, with my doctor's approval, and after completing several courses of the recommended anti-viral medication, I decided to forgo pain meds. This was not easy, but I'd already learned some valuable insights that made it worthwhile to walk this path.
I learned from past situations that pain is not always a bad thing. Pain can be a gift, a friend, a valued early-warning signal that something is out of balance in our bodies. Pain is a message that something is potentially harmful to our being (physical, mental, emotional or spiritual), and it gives us the opportunity to do something about it.
I also knew that when I have a question, the Infinite Intelligence within me knows the answer. It's my job to be focused and supremely aware of what comes into my consciousness that commands my attention. I had also learned from earlier experiences that it is much easier to receive insights from our inner wisdom when our bodies aren't busy digesting large amounts of food and our minds are still and receptive.
My first breakthrough in discovering the message in the shingles was the result of an e-mail from one of my physicians. She knows that part of my chosen path in life is clearing the shadow side of me -- the invalid thoughts, needs and hidden life patterns that block good in my life. Her suggestion was that I go back in my "mind's eye" to when I had chicken pox, as whatever was "hidden" in the track of the shingles (in my mid-back and heart area) had been there since then. I was to ask myself what life was like in my family at that time and get in touch with, as she said, "What I hadn't accepted and integrated into this life."
My feelings were pretty basic, and self-centered at that young age. Coming from a large family, I felt abandoned, unsafe and fearful, and I thought I was unworthy and unlovable. As a result, I decided at an early age to protect myself from being hurt by this situation and placed a shield around my heart.
Obviously what I didn't realize at the time was what such a strong and emotion-filled thought could have on the rest of my life. According to past medical information concerning my heart, it had started to "harden" slightly years ago, and a current test showed an additional "hardening of the aorta" since the outbreak of shingles. If the tie between our thoughts and emotions affecting our physical body seems far-fetched, remember what Jesus said and millions have confirmed -- It is done unto us as we believe.
This strengthened once again my commitment to learning whatever I could from the messages this painful condition offered. I believe unequivocally that invalid thoughts, beliefs and life patterns that have been stored in our subconscious for ages can block our good for our entire lives, and affect every area of our life, including our health. Fortunately I also learned how to replace the long forgotten and hidden negative directives with positive, life-enhancing thoughts.
Naturally my attention was riveted on the first message about my heart, as I know that my very life depends on a healthy, functioning heart. I also believe that healing my heart means opening fully to love God, self and others. I spent time selecting affirmative declarations that spoke to the core of me. I repeat them daily: I declare today that my heart is the center of Divine Love and perfect circulation. Love flows through my heart, eternally blessing me and all with whom I come in contact. My loving thoughts stimulate my heart into healthy action and sends new life to every part of my body.
The other clear message was of being fearful and feeling unsafe ... that no one "had my back." Since I know the opposite of fear is Faith, I repeat daily: I declare today that I have Faith, Trust and Confidence in God-the Universal Life Force-Goodness-Truth-Beauty--the eternal verities of life, and me.
Naturally, I included a powerful affirmative statement for healing the ongoing pain of postherpetic neuralgia. Each day I say: I declare today that I am filled with the strength, power and peace of Spirit. The life forces flow freely, peacefully and harmoniously through every cell of my body. I am healed of all cares and worries and relax into perfect peace.
Granted, no one would consciously choose intense pain as a way of becoming aware of how our bodies communicate with us. Yet, sometimes it takes a two-by-four between the eyes to get us to stop and pay attention to our bodies, especially on an ongoing basis. As for me, I bless and honor this advance warning-opportunity to do my part to clear and cleanse invalid thoughts in my subconscious in order to allow my body to do what it does best--heal itself.
_______________________________
Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Shingles is a viral infection stored in the spine after a person has chicken pox. It affects the nerves and can develop into a serious condition called post herpetic neuralgia (PHN). This complication causes burning, itching and nerve pain, and it can continue for months or years.
I am one of the 1 in 10 shingles patients who develop PHN. Ouch! Many of you know I've chosen to grow through life instead of just going through it, so you won't be surprised that I have already asked the question: What am I to learn from this situation? I know, the more usual response is to just want the pain to stop, no matter what we have to do to accomplish it, and I can relate to that, especially in the middle of sleepless nights.
However, with my doctor's approval, and after completing several courses of the recommended anti-viral medication, I decided to forgo pain meds. This was not easy, but I'd already learned some valuable insights that made it worthwhile to walk this path.
I learned from past situations that pain is not always a bad thing. Pain can be a gift, a friend, a valued early-warning signal that something is out of balance in our bodies. Pain is a message that something is potentially harmful to our being (physical, mental, emotional or spiritual), and it gives us the opportunity to do something about it.
I also knew that when I have a question, the Infinite Intelligence within me knows the answer. It's my job to be focused and supremely aware of what comes into my consciousness that commands my attention. I had also learned from earlier experiences that it is much easier to receive insights from our inner wisdom when our bodies aren't busy digesting large amounts of food and our minds are still and receptive.
My first breakthrough in discovering the message in the shingles was the result of an e-mail from one of my physicians. She knows that part of my chosen path in life is clearing the shadow side of me -- the invalid thoughts, needs and hidden life patterns that block good in my life. Her suggestion was that I go back in my "mind's eye" to when I had chicken pox, as whatever was "hidden" in the track of the shingles (in my mid-back and heart area) had been there since then. I was to ask myself what life was like in my family at that time and get in touch with, as she said, "What I hadn't accepted and integrated into this life."
My feelings were pretty basic, and self-centered at that young age. Coming from a large family, I felt abandoned, unsafe and fearful, and I thought I was unworthy and unlovable. As a result, I decided at an early age to protect myself from being hurt by this situation and placed a shield around my heart.
Obviously what I didn't realize at the time was what such a strong and emotion-filled thought could have on the rest of my life. According to past medical information concerning my heart, it had started to "harden" slightly years ago, and a current test showed an additional "hardening of the aorta" since the outbreak of shingles. If the tie between our thoughts and emotions affecting our physical body seems far-fetched, remember what Jesus said and millions have confirmed -- It is done unto us as we believe.
This strengthened once again my commitment to learning whatever I could from the messages this painful condition offered. I believe unequivocally that invalid thoughts, beliefs and life patterns that have been stored in our subconscious for ages can block our good for our entire lives, and affect every area of our life, including our health. Fortunately I also learned how to replace the long forgotten and hidden negative directives with positive, life-enhancing thoughts.
Naturally my attention was riveted on the first message about my heart, as I know that my very life depends on a healthy, functioning heart. I also believe that healing my heart means opening fully to love God, self and others. I spent time selecting affirmative declarations that spoke to the core of me. I repeat them daily: I declare today that my heart is the center of Divine Love and perfect circulation. Love flows through my heart, eternally blessing me and all with whom I come in contact. My loving thoughts stimulate my heart into healthy action and sends new life to every part of my body.
The other clear message was of being fearful and feeling unsafe ... that no one "had my back." Since I know the opposite of fear is Faith, I repeat daily: I declare today that I have Faith, Trust and Confidence in God-the Universal Life Force-Goodness-Truth-Beauty--the eternal verities of life, and me.
Naturally, I included a powerful affirmative statement for healing the ongoing pain of postherpetic neuralgia. Each day I say: I declare today that I am filled with the strength, power and peace of Spirit. The life forces flow freely, peacefully and harmoniously through every cell of my body. I am healed of all cares and worries and relax into perfect peace.
Granted, no one would consciously choose intense pain as a way of becoming aware of how our bodies communicate with us. Yet, sometimes it takes a two-by-four between the eyes to get us to stop and pay attention to our bodies, especially on an ongoing basis. As for me, I bless and honor this advance warning-opportunity to do my part to clear and cleanse invalid thoughts in my subconscious in order to allow my body to do what it does best--heal itself.
_______________________________
Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Playing the "Blame Game"? ... Look in the Mirror!
One of my least favorite things is someone ticking off a laundry list of what's wrong in our country, or in the world, and smugly assigning blame to this person or that group. So, just for a few minutes let's stop the fuming and fussing about what's wrong and who caused it and focus on what we can do as individuals to create better lives for ourselves and, ultimately, a more humane, peaceful and healthier world.
I realize that the idea that individuals can help to heal the Earth and obliterate disease, hunger, poverty and war may seem impossible and naive, but consider the following. It's obvious that today's collective world consciousness is founded on fear, greed and looking out for number one. And the results of this negative group-mindset are also obvious. We have created a global culture based on negative values. The good news is that if group negativity can be successful, then group positive-ity can as well.
I believe the universal Truth is that what we desire for the world has to manifest in our lives first. When we believe in this Truth and live it, then we will be able to create peace, health and happiness for all. No leader, no political process, no economic or governmental system is totally responsible for the challenges we face nationally or globally right now. Our situation is simply a mirror of what humanity's collective consciousness and actions from the past have wrought. And, considering the difficulties we face ... we cannot afford to underestimate the value of this opportune time to apply new Truths in order to help heal the Earth and humanity.
The first step is to accept once and for all that none of the wonderful changes we desire for our own lives and for others around the world start Out There. It is totally an "inside job," and it begins with us.
The positive thoughts we need to accept and imbed in our individual and collective consciousness must embrace such basics as abundance (enough to spare and share), health, healthy relationships, fulfilling our life's purpose (being part of bringing more Good into the world) and living in peace, security and joy on a healthy planet.
To start the process we must also accept that we are the only ones we can ever change. And we know from science that with every action there is a reaction. Whenever one person has the courage to step up and commit his or her energy to uplifting humanity, it sets a reaction in motion in other individuals that can spread around the world. The rub is that in order to tip the scale and have this happen sooner rather than after ever-worsening and dire situations, many individuals are needed to step up right now and become warriors for positive change.
All the media hyperbole around 2012 concerning the end of the world as we now know it, and the current presidential election, has served to make us aware that this is a time of great transformational change. If we forget that the media aims low and overplays the situation to get our attention, and we get caught up in fear -- and start blaming -- we become part of the problem, If, however, we can hold onto an unshakable trust, faith and confidence in the verities of life -- God-Goodness-Truth-Love-Beauty-Us -- we can open to the true message of 2012.
The real message is a wake-up call from the universe letting us know that the Big Change is not meant to happen to us, but through us. Of course, knowing the solution is only the first step. While the Truth points the way, we still have to do something about it. We have to look deep within and decide whether we are willing to focus our time and energy in being part of the solution -- or whether we choose to continue desperately hanging onto the myth that the answer lies in selfishly grabbing what we can for ourselves and letting the rest of the world be damned.
If you have what it takes to accept where the solution really lies, and to be a warrior for change, for Good, I recommend making your life motto the universal Truth as voiced by Jesus: It is done unto us as we believe. Our thoughts do determine what manifests in our lives, and millions of people are proving this every day around the world. We just need many more to do the same -- sooner. It is time for us to wake up and take responsibility for our lives and our planet and to help humanity evolve to a new consciousness level--one human being at a time.
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Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch - for additional insights go to http://www.fernstewartwelch.com/, click on How-to Lists at the top, and on "Realizing Your Heart Desires."
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An UnBalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
I realize that the idea that individuals can help to heal the Earth and obliterate disease, hunger, poverty and war may seem impossible and naive, but consider the following. It's obvious that today's collective world consciousness is founded on fear, greed and looking out for number one. And the results of this negative group-mindset are also obvious. We have created a global culture based on negative values. The good news is that if group negativity can be successful, then group positive-ity can as well.
I believe the universal Truth is that what we desire for the world has to manifest in our lives first. When we believe in this Truth and live it, then we will be able to create peace, health and happiness for all. No leader, no political process, no economic or governmental system is totally responsible for the challenges we face nationally or globally right now. Our situation is simply a mirror of what humanity's collective consciousness and actions from the past have wrought. And, considering the difficulties we face ... we cannot afford to underestimate the value of this opportune time to apply new Truths in order to help heal the Earth and humanity.
The first step is to accept once and for all that none of the wonderful changes we desire for our own lives and for others around the world start Out There. It is totally an "inside job," and it begins with us.
The positive thoughts we need to accept and imbed in our individual and collective consciousness must embrace such basics as abundance (enough to spare and share), health, healthy relationships, fulfilling our life's purpose (being part of bringing more Good into the world) and living in peace, security and joy on a healthy planet.
To start the process we must also accept that we are the only ones we can ever change. And we know from science that with every action there is a reaction. Whenever one person has the courage to step up and commit his or her energy to uplifting humanity, it sets a reaction in motion in other individuals that can spread around the world. The rub is that in order to tip the scale and have this happen sooner rather than after ever-worsening and dire situations, many individuals are needed to step up right now and become warriors for positive change.
All the media hyperbole around 2012 concerning the end of the world as we now know it, and the current presidential election, has served to make us aware that this is a time of great transformational change. If we forget that the media aims low and overplays the situation to get our attention, and we get caught up in fear -- and start blaming -- we become part of the problem, If, however, we can hold onto an unshakable trust, faith and confidence in the verities of life -- God-Goodness-Truth-Love-Beauty-Us -- we can open to the true message of 2012.
The real message is a wake-up call from the universe letting us know that the Big Change is not meant to happen to us, but through us. Of course, knowing the solution is only the first step. While the Truth points the way, we still have to do something about it. We have to look deep within and decide whether we are willing to focus our time and energy in being part of the solution -- or whether we choose to continue desperately hanging onto the myth that the answer lies in selfishly grabbing what we can for ourselves and letting the rest of the world be damned.
If you have what it takes to accept where the solution really lies, and to be a warrior for change, for Good, I recommend making your life motto the universal Truth as voiced by Jesus: It is done unto us as we believe. Our thoughts do determine what manifests in our lives, and millions of people are proving this every day around the world. We just need many more to do the same -- sooner. It is time for us to wake up and take responsibility for our lives and our planet and to help humanity evolve to a new consciousness level--one human being at a time.
_________________________________
Copyright 2012 by Fern Stewart Welch - for additional insights go to http://www.fernstewartwelch.com/, click on How-to Lists at the top, and on "Realizing Your Heart Desires."
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An UnBalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
It Takes More than New Year's Resolutions to Change Your Life
Like millions of others, I made New Year's resolutions in the past, and then failed to fulfill them. This annual ritual became an exercise in how to beat myself up for my failures.
Then I learned the concept of changing your life by changing your thoughts. I fully understood that if what I was experiencing wasn't desirable, it was equally possible to follow this concept and create a life of happiness and fulfillment. I made this idea part of my life more than three decades ago.
It didn't take me long to realize why we can never be successful by making fervent, but wishful statements about our life challenges. I learned that the problem was in the thoughts, feelings and emotions we hold about ourselves, which directly affect such important issues as abundance, health, relationships and success.
I discovered that it was necesary to go within and find out what we really desire in life. I also found that at a deep level most human beings believe they aren't good enough, deserving or worthy, which effectively blocks their good. To heal those thoughts, say every day as often as possible: I love myself just the way I am, right here, right now. I deserve all the blessings the world has to offer. I am willing to change my negative thoughts and to accept good for myself.
The core beliefs we hold of being unworthy are only thoughts, which create a feeling that binds them to us. If we change the thoughts, we change that feeling. It doesn't matter how long we have held negative thoughts or what the thoughts are. We can change the thoughts. Memorize this and repeat it as often as possible: I love myself and am wiling to change my thoughts. I now allow only positive thoughts about myself.
If we have been hurt in the past, or we hurt someone and are still holding onto the thoughts, we only hurt ourselves. These thoughts have determined the life we have now and will decide the future. We must release these thoughts and be free of the past. The only way to do that is to be willing to forgive not only others but to forgive ourselves. Say this as often as possible and for as long as it takes: I forgive myself for any real or imagined wrong done by me to myself, and to anyone else, past or present. I freely and wholly forgive anyone else for any real or imagined wrong done to me, past or present. I am free. They are free.
The key is to love ourselves so that we can open to accepting what is truly desired into our life. By paying close attention to what we think and say, we become aware of the many times we put ourselves down for the simplest and most inconsequential things. This is a negative habit that keeps us stuck in victim-hood, and assures that our life will continue to be less than desirable. Start today, and repeat often: I am wonderful, lovable, deserving and worthy and I love myself just the way I am.
While it may not be possible to say these affirmations and really mean them at first - if you continue you will -and your life will begin to change. And, while the only one we can ever change is ourselves, when we begin to experience positive changes in ourlife, it will have an effect on others. Know that whatever our current situation is, we have created it. The good news is that now we can consciously choose the life we desire.
Once we decide what we want, and can love ourselves enough to accept having it, the positive affirmations set a powerful force in motion, and we have only to persevere to be successful: Say every day as often as possible: I am perfect, whole and complete right now. I am willing to do what it takes to change my thoughts. I give thanks for the good that comes to me now, and affirm that only good comes from me to others and the world.
Negative thought patterns often take time to change, so we need to be patient and gentle with ourselves. When we begin to falter or doubt, we must take heart and know that millions of others have taken responsibility for their lives and are proving that when they change their thoughts, their lives change. Say every day: I never give up and I never give in--and victory will be yours.
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Copyright 2007 by Fern Stewart Welch -- one of the author's most requested essays.
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live a Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Then I learned the concept of changing your life by changing your thoughts. I fully understood that if what I was experiencing wasn't desirable, it was equally possible to follow this concept and create a life of happiness and fulfillment. I made this idea part of my life more than three decades ago.
It didn't take me long to realize why we can never be successful by making fervent, but wishful statements about our life challenges. I learned that the problem was in the thoughts, feelings and emotions we hold about ourselves, which directly affect such important issues as abundance, health, relationships and success.
I discovered that it was necesary to go within and find out what we really desire in life. I also found that at a deep level most human beings believe they aren't good enough, deserving or worthy, which effectively blocks their good. To heal those thoughts, say every day as often as possible: I love myself just the way I am, right here, right now. I deserve all the blessings the world has to offer. I am willing to change my negative thoughts and to accept good for myself.
The core beliefs we hold of being unworthy are only thoughts, which create a feeling that binds them to us. If we change the thoughts, we change that feeling. It doesn't matter how long we have held negative thoughts or what the thoughts are. We can change the thoughts. Memorize this and repeat it as often as possible: I love myself and am wiling to change my thoughts. I now allow only positive thoughts about myself.
If we have been hurt in the past, or we hurt someone and are still holding onto the thoughts, we only hurt ourselves. These thoughts have determined the life we have now and will decide the future. We must release these thoughts and be free of the past. The only way to do that is to be willing to forgive not only others but to forgive ourselves. Say this as often as possible and for as long as it takes: I forgive myself for any real or imagined wrong done by me to myself, and to anyone else, past or present. I freely and wholly forgive anyone else for any real or imagined wrong done to me, past or present. I am free. They are free.
The key is to love ourselves so that we can open to accepting what is truly desired into our life. By paying close attention to what we think and say, we become aware of the many times we put ourselves down for the simplest and most inconsequential things. This is a negative habit that keeps us stuck in victim-hood, and assures that our life will continue to be less than desirable. Start today, and repeat often: I am wonderful, lovable, deserving and worthy and I love myself just the way I am.
While it may not be possible to say these affirmations and really mean them at first - if you continue you will -and your life will begin to change. And, while the only one we can ever change is ourselves, when we begin to experience positive changes in ourlife, it will have an effect on others. Know that whatever our current situation is, we have created it. The good news is that now we can consciously choose the life we desire.
Once we decide what we want, and can love ourselves enough to accept having it, the positive affirmations set a powerful force in motion, and we have only to persevere to be successful: Say every day as often as possible: I am perfect, whole and complete right now. I am willing to do what it takes to change my thoughts. I give thanks for the good that comes to me now, and affirm that only good comes from me to others and the world.
Negative thought patterns often take time to change, so we need to be patient and gentle with ourselves. When we begin to falter or doubt, we must take heart and know that millions of others have taken responsibility for their lives and are proving that when they change their thoughts, their lives change. Say every day: I never give up and I never give in--and victory will be yours.
_________________________________
Copyright 2007 by Fern Stewart Welch -- one of the author's most requested essays.
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live a Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the Way--How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com and other booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
The Gift That Only You Can Give Yourself
The more time I spend in and observing nature the more I learn about myself. It recently dawned on me that I have spent my entire life in an effort to learn to relax and be who I am. I discovered this by watching the rabbits and birds that frequent my lush yard. They are totally content with what they are.
I smile when I think about what it must be like to be a blade of grass, whose only role in life is to grow and be green. In doing so, it fulfills its purpose and enhances the beauty of a yard or a field. What a sad and frustrating experience it would be for that blade of grass to spend its lifespan wishing to be a flower, a shrub or a tree. Yet, not being grounded and accepting who we are seems to be part of the human condition, resulting in many of us spending our lives striving to be something that we are not.
It does not have to be and should not be that way. Each of us is important, as no one else can be who I am, or who you are. It is only our wayward minds that confuse and frustrate us and keep us from enjoying the fullness of what it means to be alive in this form.
I believe the most important element in overcoming this tendency is to come to peace within ourselves and accept who we were born to be. Our culture is so focused on the external world that we rarely, if ever, take the time to explore the inner world that is within us.
Many people believe that life is what happens to us externally, and our role is to react to whatever comes our way, but that is not so. The Truth is that the point of power is within us and has always been. We need to realize that the way life is supposed to happen is from within out--not the other way around. When we understand this, we become empowered and can determine much of what happens to us in life.
We have the power to stop our fear-based frantic search for answers outside ourselves. Unfortunately, our culture focuses on and requires that we not be in touch with ourselves or our environment, much to the detriment of both.
Going within and connecting with our inner selves is an absolute necessity. It naturally leads to connecting with that larger part of us that knows we are one with everyone else, as well as with the Earth itself. At that point, there is no confusion or frustration about who we are or what our purpose is on this planet, as it is simply to be fully and wholly who we were born to be.
Once we make this connection, we will be free of the thoughts that have kept us off-balance and off-purpose and that preclude us from achieving our full human potential. There is great power in this knowing--power that can change our lives and the world. It is the gift that only you can give to you.
______________________________
Copyright 2007 by Fern Stewart Welch - one of the author's most requested essays.
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the way - How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com, other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
I smile when I think about what it must be like to be a blade of grass, whose only role in life is to grow and be green. In doing so, it fulfills its purpose and enhances the beauty of a yard or a field. What a sad and frustrating experience it would be for that blade of grass to spend its lifespan wishing to be a flower, a shrub or a tree. Yet, not being grounded and accepting who we are seems to be part of the human condition, resulting in many of us spending our lives striving to be something that we are not.
It does not have to be and should not be that way. Each of us is important, as no one else can be who I am, or who you are. It is only our wayward minds that confuse and frustrate us and keep us from enjoying the fullness of what it means to be alive in this form.
I believe the most important element in overcoming this tendency is to come to peace within ourselves and accept who we were born to be. Our culture is so focused on the external world that we rarely, if ever, take the time to explore the inner world that is within us.
Many people believe that life is what happens to us externally, and our role is to react to whatever comes our way, but that is not so. The Truth is that the point of power is within us and has always been. We need to realize that the way life is supposed to happen is from within out--not the other way around. When we understand this, we become empowered and can determine much of what happens to us in life.
We have the power to stop our fear-based frantic search for answers outside ourselves. Unfortunately, our culture focuses on and requires that we not be in touch with ourselves or our environment, much to the detriment of both.
Going within and connecting with our inner selves is an absolute necessity. It naturally leads to connecting with that larger part of us that knows we are one with everyone else, as well as with the Earth itself. At that point, there is no confusion or frustration about who we are or what our purpose is on this planet, as it is simply to be fully and wholly who we were born to be.
Once we make this connection, we will be free of the thoughts that have kept us off-balance and off-purpose and that preclude us from achieving our full human potential. There is great power in this knowing--power that can change our lives and the world. It is the gift that only you can give to you.
______________________________
Copyright 2007 by Fern Stewart Welch - one of the author's most requested essays.
The author's books: "Tea with Elisabeth," recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; "You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World," and "The Heart Knows the way - How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within," are available at Amazon.com, other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Speed Bumps Keep Appearing on My Way to Becoming a Receiver and a Giver
This is my third essay on learning how a lifelong giver can find a balance between giving and receiving. First, I definitely haven’t reached my goal yet. Though my initial attempts were successful enough to keep me focused on my challenge I discovered that the transformation would be more difficult than I expected.
When I first broke my foot, which was the start of this quest, a number of family members and friends stepped up to help me. Thanks to all the loving assistance with my physical needs and doctor appointments, I was able to breathe a sigh of relief that I wasn't on my own.
But the flurry of helpful involvement wasn’t to last. I realized quickly that my loved ones had lives to live, while I was still occasionally in need. I felt conflicted and was even more determined to reclaim control of my life, including my diet. Since my birthday fell during this recovery time, I was gifted with a variety of tasty but high-calorie foods, which I loved, but which I usually ate only a few times a year. Now it was weekly. I was grateful for all the assistance I received, but was learning to speak up about what I wanted and needed instead of just saying thank you for whatever was delivered. So, I said no more desserts, please.
Yet I wondered if there was something I was missing that would have made the experience more palatable for me and more beneficial for all concerned. Looking back, I think I had relaxed so completely into receiving that I lost sight of my part in the balance of giving. What else was it that I needed to learn?
Divine synchronicity intervened when a dear longtime friend called and said she needed to talk about something that was weighing on her mind. Fortunately, for me, she was so busy with work, travel and speaking commitments that our meeting was delayed for several days. I appreciated the reprieve as I had experienced many such requests from family members and friends, and I was always uneasy because I wasn’t sure I could meet their needs or desires.
During the interval, I remembered something that happened in a class that related to my friend’s current need. The facilitator gave a lecture on listening and was instantly on our case any time one of us failed to listen to her or to another member. She called us out immediately whenever we had our hands in the air before someone finished speaking because we couldn’t wait to put in our two cents, or we fiddled with papers, or read or sent text messages or retreated within and didn't hear or care what the speaker was saying.
Whether I realized it consciously or not, this memory would lead me to, as bestselling author M. Scott Peck, M.D. would say, a road less traveled, at least by me. When my troubled friend called again and asked to come over it was near dinner time, and I suggested she stop by a local restaurant and pick up our meal, which would be my treat (once again I was being the giver.)
As she arrived we greeted each other warmly, and when she remembered she had missed my birthday, she immediately said dinner was on her. Of course old habits surfaced and I began to protest. This time I also thought about that “un-traveled road” – receiving – and said gratefully, “Yes, thank you, more please.” We laughed, embraced again and thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and the wonderful food.
As we settled onto the sofa to talk, I felt at ease. I had evidently decided subconsciously to really listen, to be totally present for her, and remarkably, I was. I paid close attention to her words and her body language. I was never tempted to offer solutions for her problems, but sought only to help her bring forth her own conclusions.
I automatically supported her strengths verbally and felt perfectly comfortable doing that. I even lightly tossed in truths that she knew so well, as we all do, but often lose sight of when we are experiencing emotionally difficult situations.
As we said goodbye, I realized that our energies were in a state of equilibrium, and our shared joy was genuine. It was clearly a real-world example of balanced, from-the-heart giving and receiving, and I was fully aware of it in the moment.
Later I thought of the many times I had missed the chance to simply listen to a fellow human being, and to practice that aspect of giving and receiving. Now I realize there are surely an infinite variety of ways in which to do this, but in this experience it is easy to see how it was a win-win situation for both of us. By being totally present for another person in their time of need, we are helping to create happier lives and a more humane world.
_______________________________
Copyright 2011 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author’s books: “Tea with Elisabeth,” recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; “You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World,” and “The Heart Knows the Way—How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within,” are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
When I first broke my foot, which was the start of this quest, a number of family members and friends stepped up to help me. Thanks to all the loving assistance with my physical needs and doctor appointments, I was able to breathe a sigh of relief that I wasn't on my own.
But the flurry of helpful involvement wasn’t to last. I realized quickly that my loved ones had lives to live, while I was still occasionally in need. I felt conflicted and was even more determined to reclaim control of my life, including my diet. Since my birthday fell during this recovery time, I was gifted with a variety of tasty but high-calorie foods, which I loved, but which I usually ate only a few times a year. Now it was weekly. I was grateful for all the assistance I received, but was learning to speak up about what I wanted and needed instead of just saying thank you for whatever was delivered. So, I said no more desserts, please.
Yet I wondered if there was something I was missing that would have made the experience more palatable for me and more beneficial for all concerned. Looking back, I think I had relaxed so completely into receiving that I lost sight of my part in the balance of giving. What else was it that I needed to learn?
Divine synchronicity intervened when a dear longtime friend called and said she needed to talk about something that was weighing on her mind. Fortunately, for me, she was so busy with work, travel and speaking commitments that our meeting was delayed for several days. I appreciated the reprieve as I had experienced many such requests from family members and friends, and I was always uneasy because I wasn’t sure I could meet their needs or desires.
During the interval, I remembered something that happened in a class that related to my friend’s current need. The facilitator gave a lecture on listening and was instantly on our case any time one of us failed to listen to her or to another member. She called us out immediately whenever we had our hands in the air before someone finished speaking because we couldn’t wait to put in our two cents, or we fiddled with papers, or read or sent text messages or retreated within and didn't hear or care what the speaker was saying.
Whether I realized it consciously or not, this memory would lead me to, as bestselling author M. Scott Peck, M.D. would say, a road less traveled, at least by me. When my troubled friend called again and asked to come over it was near dinner time, and I suggested she stop by a local restaurant and pick up our meal, which would be my treat (once again I was being the giver.)
As she arrived we greeted each other warmly, and when she remembered she had missed my birthday, she immediately said dinner was on her. Of course old habits surfaced and I began to protest. This time I also thought about that “un-traveled road” – receiving – and said gratefully, “Yes, thank you, more please.” We laughed, embraced again and thoroughly enjoyed our conversation and the wonderful food.
As we settled onto the sofa to talk, I felt at ease. I had evidently decided subconsciously to really listen, to be totally present for her, and remarkably, I was. I paid close attention to her words and her body language. I was never tempted to offer solutions for her problems, but sought only to help her bring forth her own conclusions.
I automatically supported her strengths verbally and felt perfectly comfortable doing that. I even lightly tossed in truths that she knew so well, as we all do, but often lose sight of when we are experiencing emotionally difficult situations.
As we said goodbye, I realized that our energies were in a state of equilibrium, and our shared joy was genuine. It was clearly a real-world example of balanced, from-the-heart giving and receiving, and I was fully aware of it in the moment.
Later I thought of the many times I had missed the chance to simply listen to a fellow human being, and to practice that aspect of giving and receiving. Now I realize there are surely an infinite variety of ways in which to do this, but in this experience it is easy to see how it was a win-win situation for both of us. By being totally present for another person in their time of need, we are helping to create happier lives and a more humane world.
_______________________________
Copyright 2011 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author’s books: “Tea with Elisabeth,” recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; “You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World,” and “The Heart Knows the Way—How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within,” are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Making the "Impossible" Possible
After posting last month’s essay on giving and receiving, and feeling complete with the insights I had gained, I happened upon a quote by Indian yogi and mystic Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev that changed my opinion. I realized immediately that I had only scratched the surface of this vital and complex issue. Evidently I was meant to dig much deeper to fully grasp and understand it so I could embrace it and share it with others.
His provocative quote says that when we think or say something is impossible, what we’re actually doing is telling the universe, “No thank you, we didn’t really want that anyway.”
Some of the “impossible” global examples Vasudev is obviously referring to are world peace, poverty and hunger, and on an individual level, perfect health, healthy relationships and prosperity. They remain impossible, he said, because we hold negative thoughts in our consciousness that cancel out any possibility of receiving them as a reality.
Vasudev’s quote highlighted what I believe, which is that we live in an abundant universe that is constantly giving, but many of us, me included, aren't always willing to receive. We are the ones blocking the flow by saying or thinking, in essence, “Never mind, that may happen for someone else, but not for me.”
One of the yogi’s first questions after making his bold statement would have to be, why are we withholding good from ourselves? And the next one would be, why would we ever choose to put such unhealthy and undesirable limitations on the infinite giving-ness of Spirit and the abundant universe?
My immediate response would be from my own experience: Most of us still don’t know how life on Earth really works. I lived the first half of my life as a victim for exactly that reason. Until I learned the truth in what Jesus taught about it being done unto us as we believe, I was living by default instead of by design. In the mid-seventies, this incredible concept had been succinctly re-stated as: Change your thoughts and change your life. And thanks to hundreds of visionary writers and speakers, as well as many sages and spiritual leaders throughout the ages, we are finally aware enough to accept this concept. It is being lived and confirmed by millions of people all over the world, thanks to all the above and TV's all-purpose guru Oprah.
As I embraced this truth, I realized that we are the scriptwriters, the casting directors and directors of our own comedies, dramas or tragedies. The Universal Life Force, energy that is in everything and everyone in the universe, is the producer. I finally realized that I had been trapped in a victim role with absolutely no idea that the pleas and prayers I spoke each morning were overshadowed by the negative thoughts I focused on the rest of the day. The universe sees no difference between an order that is positive or negative; it only knows to fulfill it.
The next deterrent to receiving our good from the universe is directly related to the invalid thoughts, beliefs, needs, feelings and life patterns that we hold in our subconscious. These long-forgotten directives determine whether we feel worthy, deserving or lovable enough to receive our good.
The solution, from my experience, is to take the time to look within and start clearing out the negative beliefs we have so that our desires for a good life can be realized. Naturally, we also have to know what we want, which many people don’t, and I didn’t for a very long time. Then we need to clean up our subconscious and align our desires with what is good in the universe, which means that our desires neither harm nor take from anyone else. When we can do this and maintain an anticipation of good, we are open to receiving.
Is it a lot of work to make the impossible possible? Yes. But the result is so much better than spending a lifetime wishing we knew why other people were living “charmed” lives and we always ended up with the short end of the stick. It was never meant to be that way. This is a blessed, abundant universe, and it’s time to realize that we were born to have all the good our hearts desire—and can accept.
Incredible technological and economic changes are taking place in our world right now and are already affecting every area of our lives. I believe that the “impossible” global and individual changes humanity yearns for are imminently possible.
To meet the challenges and opportunities that will alter humanity’s future one way or another, we need to accept the reality of how life works and align our thoughts and actions with that awareness. Our lifetime might see the beginning of a cosmic push-comes-to-shove era for human beings. If we truly want to be part of this opportunity to co-create a better world, we must step up and face the facts—and be willing to lead, follow or get out of the way.
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Copyright © 2011 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author’s books: “Tea with Elisabeth,” recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; “You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World”; and “The Heart Knows the Way—How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within,” are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
His provocative quote says that when we think or say something is impossible, what we’re actually doing is telling the universe, “No thank you, we didn’t really want that anyway.”
Some of the “impossible” global examples Vasudev is obviously referring to are world peace, poverty and hunger, and on an individual level, perfect health, healthy relationships and prosperity. They remain impossible, he said, because we hold negative thoughts in our consciousness that cancel out any possibility of receiving them as a reality.
Vasudev’s quote highlighted what I believe, which is that we live in an abundant universe that is constantly giving, but many of us, me included, aren't always willing to receive. We are the ones blocking the flow by saying or thinking, in essence, “Never mind, that may happen for someone else, but not for me.”
One of the yogi’s first questions after making his bold statement would have to be, why are we withholding good from ourselves? And the next one would be, why would we ever choose to put such unhealthy and undesirable limitations on the infinite giving-ness of Spirit and the abundant universe?
My immediate response would be from my own experience: Most of us still don’t know how life on Earth really works. I lived the first half of my life as a victim for exactly that reason. Until I learned the truth in what Jesus taught about it being done unto us as we believe, I was living by default instead of by design. In the mid-seventies, this incredible concept had been succinctly re-stated as: Change your thoughts and change your life. And thanks to hundreds of visionary writers and speakers, as well as many sages and spiritual leaders throughout the ages, we are finally aware enough to accept this concept. It is being lived and confirmed by millions of people all over the world, thanks to all the above and TV's all-purpose guru Oprah.
As I embraced this truth, I realized that we are the scriptwriters, the casting directors and directors of our own comedies, dramas or tragedies. The Universal Life Force, energy that is in everything and everyone in the universe, is the producer. I finally realized that I had been trapped in a victim role with absolutely no idea that the pleas and prayers I spoke each morning were overshadowed by the negative thoughts I focused on the rest of the day. The universe sees no difference between an order that is positive or negative; it only knows to fulfill it.
The next deterrent to receiving our good from the universe is directly related to the invalid thoughts, beliefs, needs, feelings and life patterns that we hold in our subconscious. These long-forgotten directives determine whether we feel worthy, deserving or lovable enough to receive our good.
The solution, from my experience, is to take the time to look within and start clearing out the negative beliefs we have so that our desires for a good life can be realized. Naturally, we also have to know what we want, which many people don’t, and I didn’t for a very long time. Then we need to clean up our subconscious and align our desires with what is good in the universe, which means that our desires neither harm nor take from anyone else. When we can do this and maintain an anticipation of good, we are open to receiving.
Is it a lot of work to make the impossible possible? Yes. But the result is so much better than spending a lifetime wishing we knew why other people were living “charmed” lives and we always ended up with the short end of the stick. It was never meant to be that way. This is a blessed, abundant universe, and it’s time to realize that we were born to have all the good our hearts desire—and can accept.
Incredible technological and economic changes are taking place in our world right now and are already affecting every area of our lives. I believe that the “impossible” global and individual changes humanity yearns for are imminently possible.
To meet the challenges and opportunities that will alter humanity’s future one way or another, we need to accept the reality of how life works and align our thoughts and actions with that awareness. Our lifetime might see the beginning of a cosmic push-comes-to-shove era for human beings. If we truly want to be part of this opportunity to co-create a better world, we must step up and face the facts—and be willing to lead, follow or get out of the way.
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Copyright © 2011 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author’s books: “Tea with Elisabeth,” recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; “You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World”; and “The Heart Knows the Way—How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within,” are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Thursday, September 1, 2011
How a Broken Foot Became a Blessing Instead of a Bummer
Most of you know that I write about what I learn as I grow through life instead of just going through it. You also know that I consider it part of my life’s purpose to share the insights and lessons learned about how life is meant to work as I meet the ups and downs of daily happenings.
Recently I’ve been thinking about what my dear friend and mentor, the late Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, reminded me of, often: “Everything in life happens for a reason. There are no such things as accidents.” In addition to being the world expert on death and dying, she was also considered one of the most brilliant, heroic and influential women of all time.
Since I had just experienced an “accident” while on holiday, it was a perfect opportunity to test her teaching and find out what insight(s) I was meant to gain. It was the middle of the night. I was at a friend’s townhouse on the bank of a sparkling stream, and I missed two steps entering the sunken living room. Naturally, my first priority after the fall wasn’t asking what I was to learn from this situation. It was taking inventory of my body to check out the damage. Amazingly, I realized that except for my right foot, everything else was intact and felt perfectly fine.
I waited until morning to inform my friend, who was sleeping upstairs. By that time, it was obvious that a bone was broken in my foot. This meant we had to leave that idyllic setting and return home – visit the Emergency Room, have x-rays and consultations – and finally be fitted with a cane and a boot to protect my injured right foot. The post-ER instructions included staying off the foot as much as possible for the next 4-6 weeks.
When I did turn my thoughts to what this experience meant at a learning level, I realized that before I left on our trip I had purchased a book, “The Power of Receiving,” by Amanda Owen which is now on my bedside table. I bought it, I thought, because there was a glowing cover endorsement by someone I know, Dr. Christiane Northrup, who is also one of my favorite bestselling authors. The subtitle was, “a revolutionary approach to receiving the life you desire and deserve.”
One of the early statements in the book caught my attention and I was hooked. It was something like this: The world can only give you what you are willing to receive.
Like everyone else, I have dreams and goals and want to achieve them, so I allowed those words of wisdom to rumble around in my brain. It didn’t take long after the fall to face the following facts: I was now in a somewhat helpless condition, and definitely needed to ask for and receive help. I also knew that asking others for assistance was something I had always resisted like the plague. In following that train of thought, I also realized that I had been a major giver all my life, without much thought given to the concept of receiving.
As I continued reading about giving and receiving, I grasped the reciprocal tie between them. I realized that in all earthly interactions there needs to be a natural ebb and flow, a harmonious balance. I also got the message that when we get caught up in giving, as I had obviously done, the ego likes that much better than receiving and some of us choose to be magnanimous givers as a result. As the author says, when we’re giving we get to “showcase” our more saintly attributes and our egos love that.
Since my inner knowing resonated with the author’s information, I was eager to put it to the test. All offers for help in my time of need were gratefully accepted. This proved to be a thousand times better than my former stance of “suffering in silence,” and feeling like a victim. All of which I chose because I wouldn’t allow myself to be a nuisance or to put anyone out. Now I had willing and happy givers who provided delicious food, brought in my mail, emptied the trash, spent time visiting with me, watered my plants and took me to doctor’s appointments.
The difference in the natural balance of giving and receiving was immediately obvious. I felt loved and cared for in a way I had never allowed before. And, like an over-ripe peach my love and gratitude burst forth. I was rewarded with the smiles on the faces of the givers and several special experiences that I hug to my heart.
The first one was with my younger grandchildren who proudly carried in the “bounty” lovingly chosen and beautifully prepared by their mother to “restock Mimi’s pantry and refrigerator.” Then, after my dear sister took me to the doctor, she paused as she opened the car door and asked what else I needed or wanted. All of a sudden, I felt wickedly playful and asked slyly: “What did you have in mind?” She replied seriously, “I will do anything for you.” My eyes widened and I said, “Anything?!” She replied, “Yes.” I was so surprised and stunned by her loving response that I was speechless. It wasn’t lost on me that neither of these experiences would ever have happened if I hadn’t allowed myself to receive and others to give.
I have known for a long time that we are born to be powerful spiritual beings. But until we become aware of that and free ourselves from invalid beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, needs and life patterns that we hold in our subconscious, we will never know our true selves. We will also never realize that we deserve to receive good from ourselves and others—including having our dearest dreams and desires fulfilled from an abundant Universe.
While I was writing this essay, my daughter called and asked what I was working on. As soon as she heard the subject, she said spontaneously, “When giving and receiving are in balance, love just occurs.” I knew immediately that this wasn’t one of her life issues. I also knew that when we choose to honor and live from that natural balance, it is a blessing. When we aren’t even aware of it, it’s a bummer.
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Copyright © 2011 by Fern Stewart Welch
The author’s books: “Tea with Elisabeth,” recipient of the 2010 Silver Award for Non-fiction; “You Can Live A Balanced Life In An Unbalanced World”; and “The Heart Knows the Way—How to Follow Your Heart to a Conscious Connection with the Divine Spirit Within,” are available at Amazon.com and other online booksellers, as well as bookstore chains such as Barnes & Noble.
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